Perhaps you’re an introvert whereas your important different is tremendous outgoing. Or perhaps you’re courting a workaholic however you like to have enjoyable. Regardless that you would possibly suppose you’re complete opposites, there’s in all probability a cause why you get alongside—and your Enneagram kind might be able to enable you to determine it out.
There are three teams of Enneagram sorts, Coronary heart Varieties, Head Varieties, and Physique Varieties, and the kinds are grouped primarily based on their predominant motivations. Coronary heart Varieties are all about their feelings, whereas Physique Varieties are inclined to belief their intestine emotions, and Head Varieties suppose issues by way of. Understanding your Enneagram quantity and grouping might help you perceive the way you (and the particular person you’re courting) take care of different folks, points, and life on the whole.
However simply because your Enneagram quantity isn’t technically suitable together with your important different’s or crush’s doesn’t imply you must break up with them proper now. You may get together with any kind—you simply would possibly get together with some higher than others. The Enneagram Institute even says that Enneagram compatibility helps you perceive the strengths and weaknesses of your relationships and why some may appear straightforward whereas others have extra struggles. What it doesn’t do is inform you that your relationship is doomed or excellent, so don’t panic in case your quantity doesn’t match up together with your important different’s.
If you wish to perceive extra about the right way to get together with different Enneagram sorts, maintain studying to search out out what to find out about courting every quantity.
Kind Ones are perfectionists. They’re extraordinarily detail-oriented and conscientious, they usually have excessive requirements, which might make them very crucial of themselves. Ones are additionally extraordinarily sensible and have a robust need to be helpful. Private ethics, following the principles, and making a distinction are vital to Ones. Ones are Physique Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- Two: Ones and Twos each have excessive moral requirements and like to assist others, however Twos have a extra nurturing facet, which might help Ones be much less inflexible.
- Seven: Ones and Sevens are complementary as a result of they share a line on the Enneagram wheel. Sevens mainly have traits that Ones don’t (and vice versa). Ones are perfectionists and prefer to plan forward, whereas Sevens are extra spontaneous.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Ones don’t solely have excessive requirements for themselves—they have a tendency to have excessive requirements for everybody else, too, which makes them straightforward to disappoint, they usually can get annoyed when issues (and other people) don’t dwell as much as their expectations. Ones take issues very critically and may wrestle to be versatile, so don’t count on your One important different to float. You possibly can assist the One you’re courting discover ways to loosen up a bit of since they’ve issue balancing work and life.
Kind Twos are caring and beneficiant and revel in serving to different folks—they’re typically the “mother” buddy. They wish to belong and really feel appreciated, however their need to be preferred could make them people-pleasers. Twos are affected person and empathetic and are Coronary heart Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- Three: Twos and Threes are each tremendous personable, charming, and likable. Twos additionally prefer to handle others and Threes prefer to be within the highlight, which makes them work nicely collectively as a result of Twos will give them a lot of consideration.
- Eight: Twos and Eights share an Enneagram line, giving them related traits and attributes that the opposite doesn’t have. They each have a variety of power and have a tendency to disregard their very own wants. Twos normally do that when serving to others, whereas Eights will work themselves so laborious that they overlook to eat or sleep.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Since Twos wish to assist everybody, they are often vulnerable to getting walked throughout by others once they don’t set boundaries. They will additionally expend a lot emotional power caring for the folks of their lives that they overlook to handle themselves, so ensure you handle your Two important different generally, too. Twos need approval from others, so letting your Two important different know what you want about them and telling them how a lot you care is vital.
Kind Threes are tremendous pushed and bold, which might trigger them to develop into obsessive about succeeding and with others seeing them as vital. They worry being a failure and all the time wish to be one of the best. Threes are sometimes tremendous charismatic and get together with just about anybody. Threes are Coronary heart Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- 5: Threes and Fives are centered on work, and each wish to be seen as competent by others. Fives perceive Threes’ want for private area.
- Seven: Threes and Sevens complement one another. They each like socializing and are good communicators (they usually like speaking). Threes are extra work-oriented, whereas Sevens are fun-loving, so they create out completely different sides of one another.
- 9: Three and 9 {couples} are fairly frequent. Nines are actually supportive of Threes’ objectives, and Threes might help Nines to be stronger and extra assured in themselves.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: You would possibly take a backseat to work when you’re courting a Three, so that you’ll have to know their ambitions and objectives. Don’t make them really feel dangerous for working 24/7. Threes wish to really feel vital, so remember to give them a lot of reward and reassurance to allow them to know you care. You possibly can assist the Three you’re courting discover ways to decelerate as a substitute of all the time eager about what must be achieved subsequent.
Kind Fours are tremendous emotional and delicate, they usually’re typically inventive. Fours see themselves as being distinctive and are large on self-expression. Fours are Coronary heart Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- 5: Each Fours and Fives will be extremely inventive. Fours might help Fives embrace their feelings and be extra weak, and Fives might help floor Fours.
- 9: Fours and Nines are each personal and delicate, so that they perceive one another.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Fours will be moody and really delicate, so it’s important to be ready to roll with the punches with them. They are often actually intense and really feel issues very deeply. Don’t make them really feel dangerous for his or her sturdy emotions, and allow them to know you’re there for them. You may make Fours really feel understood and fewer alone by taking an curiosity within the issues they like and artistic tasks they’re engaged on.
Kind Fives are normally caught of their heads. They wish to study completely different topics and know every thing about every thing. Fives wish to be considered competent in no matter they do, particularly of their areas of experience. They suppose (and overthink) and analyze earlier than they act slightly than leaping into conditions. Fives are Head Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- One: Ones are unbiased like Fives, and each are rational and mental and have a lot of pursuits, so that they’ll have superb convos.
- Two: They are saying opposites appeal to, which will be true for Fives and Twos. Fives are large on private area, they usually might help Twos with setting boundaries. Twos might help Fives faucet into their feelings.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Fives will be stoic, laborious to learn, and are available throughout as chilly (as a Kind 5, I can inform you “laborious to learn” is my center identify). You’ll must be affected person with getting them to confide in you and share their emotions as a result of they have a tendency to maintain issues to themselves. You may make Fives really feel comfy by providing to assist as a substitute of letting them do every thing on their very own. As Fives are tremendous introverted and unbiased, you’ll have to know their want for alone time.
Kind Sixes are accountable and dependable. “Be ready” is their motto since they’re all the time planning. They are often anxious and worry not understanding what to anticipate (which is why they over-prepare). Sixes are Head Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- 9: A Six and 9 pairing is without doubt one of the most typical {couples}. Each sorts are dependable and crave stability. Nines may also assist Sixes be extra optimistic and trusting of different folks.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Sixes are considerate and caring in relationships, they usually’re tremendous loyal. Don’t get aggravated when a Six needs to manage and plan for each attainable situation. You possibly can assist them perceive that they will’t all the time be in management and discover ways to let go a bit of.
Kind Sevens like to have enjoyable and will be spontaneous, however their spontaneity may also make them scattered (large Sagittarius power). Sevens are enthusiastic and optimistic. They’re all the time doing one thing or going someplace. Sevens are Head Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- 9: Sevens and Nines are one of the frequent pairs as a result of they’re each sociable and easygoing and prefer to search for the silver lining in every thing.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Sevens all the time wish to expertise one thing new and are continually transferring. Sevens normally attempt to maintain busy so that they don’t get bored and to keep away from acknowledging detrimental emotions. You possibly can assist them decelerate, loosen up, and perceive that they don’t all the time must be constructive (it’s OK to be unhappy every so often).
Kind Eights are easy, assured, and decisive—a traditional businessperson-type character. They don’t wish to be seen as weak or weak, they usually’re not afraid of battle. They will also be impulsive. Eights are Physique Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- 9: Eights are assertive whereas Nines are laid again. Nines might help Eights be calmer and loosen up, and Nines can study to be extra confident from Eights.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Eights prefer to be in cost and don’t like folks telling them what to do, so don’t be shocked in the event that they attempt to make all of the plans in your relationship. Eights are energetic and don’t all the time know their limits, so assist the Eight you’re courting set boundaries so that they don’t burn themselves out.
Kind Nines are easygoing and don’t like battle or confrontation. They’re normally calm, well-liked, and good at getting together with a lot of completely different folks. Nines are Physique Varieties.
What sorts work nicely with this sort:
- One: Nines’ extra carefree nature helps Ones to be much less crucial, and Ones can provide extra construction to Nines’ lives.
- Two: Each Nines and Twos are optimistic and like serving to different folks. They’re very supportive of one another in a relationship.
What to know when you’re courting this sort: Since Nines keep away from battle and wish to make everybody completely happy, they will generally be pushovers. You possibly can assist them find time for themselves as a substitute of solely eager about what others want. Nines can generally be passive-aggressive since they don’t wish to really disagree with you, so assist the 9 you’re courting study to face up for themselves.
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