“Image this: You stroll into the salon figuring out precisely what coiffure you need. It’s a chin-grazing layered bob. You inform the hairstylist about your dream ’do, however you’re instructed to rethink and go for one other coiffure that may ‘body your face and make you look slimmer’.
Your coronary heart utterly sinks, and also you surprise if you happen to ought to go for the beneficial coiffure as an alternative. You come out unhappy, not assured, hating not solely your hair, but in addition the way you look. That was my expertise 90 per cent of the time after I went to salons.
Hairstyles that promote a ‘slimming look’ could cause a lot harm to our physique and shallowness. For years, I’ve feared hairstyles that made me look fats. I used to be instructed that shorter hairstyles could make your face look rounder.
When the wolf reduce (layered haircut with quick, uneven layers on the crown space) grew to become a development, many went for the chop, however there have been additionally folks like me who felt like they couldn’t pull it off as a result of it made them look ‘greater’.
Not too long ago, I requested my family and friends why a lot of them selected to maintain their hair lengthy. Their responses obtained me pondering. ‘My buddies instructed me that I look slimmer with lengthy tresses’ and ‘I’m fearful of quick hairstyles as a result of they may make my face seem chubbier’ had been some frequent explanation why these round me sported lengthy, cascading strands.
For a lot of, hair holds a excessive degree of significance, and the unsuitable haircut can have an effect on their psychological well being and confidence. For others, hair is supposed to be enjoyable; they modify their look with out occupied with whether or not they get judged or shamed, or whether or not it’s stylish. It doesn’t matter.
As knowledgeable within the hair and make-up trade, I discover that lots of my purchasers request for ‘slimming’, closely contoured make-up seems. The identical goes for hairstyles. They use their hair to cover elements of their foreheads and cheeks.
I all the time remind my purchasers to overlook the ‘guidelines’ and embrace their particular person magnificence as an alternative. I hope every consumer leaves my make-up chair feeling good about themselves.
I need to share an expertise from my childhood that has been etched into my reminiscence. As a youngster, I used to be bullied lots, and lots of it was about how my hair appeared. I used to be all the time altering up my coiffure in hopes that the bullying would cease, however it obtained worse and my nervousness deepened.
After I graduated, I instructed myself, ‘That’s it!’ I used to be going to do something and all the pieces to my hair. And so, I purchased some bleach from a hair provides store and dyed my hair blue. I didn’t cease there. I went from lengthy hair to a pixie reduce. It dawned on me that hair can all the time develop again. I needed to have enjoyable with it. All of the internalised fatphobia instantly didn’t matter to me, and I lastly felt assured as a result of I obtained the coiffure that I’d all the time needed.
At this time, I’m 25 and rocking a jet-black bob that’s simply above the shoulders… and I’ve by no means felt higher.
My greatest takeaway from this: Neglect ‘face-slimming’ hairstyles! If there’s a coiffure or color that you simply’re pondering of, go for it. You should really feel good in no matter model you put on, and the opinions of these round you don’t matter.
Take it one step at a time, and have enjoyable when you’re at it!”
As instructed to us by Mary Victor, hair and make-up artist and Her World Tribe member.
Supply: Her World