{"id":18121,"date":"2022-06-25T08:44:10","date_gmt":"2022-06-25T08:44:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/womenmag.net\/lifestyle\/sex-101-how-to-start-role-playing-with-your-partner\/"},"modified":"2022-06-25T08:44:31","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T08:44:31","slug":"sex-101-how-to-start-role-playing-with-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/womenmag.net\/lifestyle\/sex-101-how-to-start-role-playing-with-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex 101: How to Start Role-Playing With Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Undoubtedly, this is one of the most memorable sex scenes in movie cinema history. <\/span>The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn<\/span><\/i>. Are you kidding me? My 15-year-old self had a sexual awakening when I saw Bella and Edward sex in the water. All to end up in bed. The scene where she wakes up to a broken bed and pillows scattered around the room sounds exactly like my sex dreams (with less Edward Cullen, and more LaKeith Stanfield). We must also mention the best sex scene ever: Mila Kunis and Natalie Portman. <\/span>Black Swan<\/span><\/i>. You know, I claimed <\/span>Black Swan<\/span><\/i>For a while, it was my favorite movie ever. It wasn’t until a few years later did I realize that I might be bisexual.<\/span><\/p>\n

You know why movie sex scenes look so sexy? It\u2019s acting. There\u2019s a sense of \u201cthese aren\u2019t real people\u201d to the whole thing. And you know what? It’s possible to feel that same feeling even if you are a regular old person.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be completely honest: role-playing with your partner can feel really intimidating and, of course, totally weird and awkward if you\u2019re new to it. As with most sexual things, practice and communication can lead to many orgasms. This 101 guide will help you choose the best role plays for your life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Make sure you know your boundaries and safe words<\/span><\/h2>\n

Before you and your partner become entirely different people for the night, talk over what you\u2019re willing to do and what you\u2019re not. It\u2019s important to know what each of you is hoping to get out of the experience. It might be a one-night-only event for you. You might consider adding this to your normal rotation with your partner. Some people enjoy role-playing to create fantasies. Whatever your choice, make sure it suits you both. This is where communication with your partner is essential.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll also want to come up with any safe words if you\u2019re practicing BDSM or anything similar.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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How to decide which role to play<\/span><\/h2>\n

You can certainly just pick a character and do what you want. But if you\u2019re not an Oscar-winning actress just yet (maybe if I flesh out the cash for that Natalie Portman Masterclass, but I digress), it\u2019s OK to take some time to figure it out and come up with it as you go. The easiest thing would be to do it with a different person. Maybe it\u2019s your alter-ego. You don\u2019t totally change your look, but you go by a different name and act a little different (for example, normally you\u2019re more dominant in the bedroom, and instead you act a little more submissive). Pretend it\u2019s your first date all over again.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You can, however, choose who to role-play based upon your fantasies. What inspires you? Is it a student\/teacher scene? A nurse\/patient? Two roommates? Make your decision on truly what turns you on, because it\u2019ll just feel awkward and funny to you both if it\u2019s not something you actually find sexy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Are you willing to make costumes? You can. But to be fair, if your partner is of the male species, you might be able to get away with putting your hair in a different style and slapping on a smokey eye, and they\u2019ll think it\u2019s different enough. Wigs are an inexpensive and fun way to make things more interesting for your partner. Consider changing your character if the situation is more complicated. This might feel really awkward for your first-time role-playing, so don\u2019t be afraid to start small. Speaking of\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

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Start small<\/span><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s OK if the first time you role-play doesn\u2019t involve the sexy French maid costume of your dreams and a fully flushed-out script of everything you\u2019ll say. It\u2019s really easy and casual to start role-playing through text first. You and your partner can gauge how you enjoy it and feel about it without the pressure of \u201cacting\u201d in front of each other.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t stress if you feel silly<\/span><\/h2>\n

Role-playing can sorta feel like you\u2019re back in high school musical theater if you\u2019re not used to it, and that\u2019s completely normal. It\u2019s different and new, but it takes time to get used to being that way with your partner. Role-playing is like a game. However, not everyone is good at it the first time they play.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Change of location<\/span><\/h2>\n

Obviously, we\u2019re not heading out to our local hotel bar to reenact our first dates right now. Change the place you are in. You can go to the park, start your role play there (finishing at home of course), or change the location in your home. If you really get into it, turn your kitchen island and dining table into a little bar setup for the evening. Imagine your home as a hotel. Have fun with it and let your imagination run wild. Sex is all about exercising your creative muscles.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Some scenarios to try<\/span><\/h2>\n