For some couples (I call them the “unicorn couples”), being stuck inside 24/7 due to the cold weather means doing the nasty more than you did when you were first dating. This time of year can mean a lack in motivation and a lot more takeout and leftover Christmas cookies for most couples. This means that your sex drive and overall intimacy might be lower these days.
But with chilly temperatures outside, it’s also the perfect time to reignite that spark with a little cozy night in. Whether you’re newly dating or have been together for decades, consider this the comprehensive checklist of everything you need for the romantic night you deserve (BTW, the same rules apply if you’re indulging in a night of self-love too). These must-haves will set the mood for a romantic date night.
1. The right scent
Candles not only set a romantic ambiance thanks to dim lighting and flickering fire (there’s a reason the sex scenes in every rom-com include candles), but sensuality is also about awakening each of the senses, and that includes smell. Some scents may be more stimulating if they are based on personal memories (e.g. rose from your wedding night or vanilla from your first vacation away together). Other scents could also be aphrodisiacs. You should look for candles that have spicy notes such as cinnamon or sandalwood, luxurious scents, such as vanilla or ylang-ylang, and soothing scents like lavender, sage, and so on.
2. Bath (or shower) essentials
Foreplay is not just about the 10 to 30 minutes leading up to sex; it’s about building the anticipation throughout the entire day. You can feel your best when you pamper yourself in the tub or shower. Dry brushing, using bath salts or scrubs to exfoliate, and applying oil to the skin are some of the options. Oh, and don’t forget to check yourself out in the mirror (confidence is the #1 best sex hack!). If you’re looking to bring your partner along, a steamy shower or relaxing bath can be part of the romantic evening. Sex is for everyone. Is self-care.
3. Luxurious beauty products
Confidence isn’t determined by how you view your partner. However, it can be determined by how you interact with them. You feel about yourself (your partner is going to think you’re smokin’, no matter what). Invest in products which make you happy You feel good, whether it’s a full face of makeup, a brightening facial treatment, a spritz of perfume, or a texture spray to DIY bedhead. After all, beauty is not about what we think we have to do to look good; it’s about indulging in ourselves (because we’re worth it) and remembering how attractive we are (from the inside out). Make your skin glow with the best beauty products.
4. Music to set the mood
It’s no surprise that music dictates the mood. How else would we know to feel hopeful and excited if the rom-com didn’t include Why Can’t I by Liz PhairWe would even cry if we had to. My Heart Will Keep Going didn’t play at the end of Titanic? Would Jaws The theme song would make it seem so frightening, or the rose ceremonies. The Bachelorette Without the suspenseful soundtrack, it’s not as dramatic. Music is a way to express your feelings. Make a playlist of the songs that make you feel confident, sexy, and romantic, or turn on our “Get Sexy” playlist, filled with all the songs 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the best way).
5. Lube
The Everygirl is a big advocate for the truth that Everybody (yes, everyone) should at minimum try lube. Our editor Beth even went so far as to say, “Personal lubricant is not a choice in my book; it is a necessary tool for sexual pleasure and health. Lube is the best sex toy you could ever add to the bedroom.” If that’s not convincing enough, I don’t know what is. Non-toxic ingredients, nourishing formulations, and lubricants will increase pleasure. treatment-like benefits.
6. Something pretty to put on your outfit
Disclaimer: If you feel great in your birthday dress, you can go girl. You can skip this step and just go about your day. You deserve to indulge in something luxurious and luxurious if you feel like wearing lingerie or wrapping your body in silky robes puts you in the mood. If full-on lingerie isn’t your thing, even a pair of new underwear or a pajama set that makes you feel sexy can completely revamp your sex life (yes, really). After all, remember that your pleasure directly correlates to your confidence, and if a lacy bra helps you feel like the badass you are, it’s well worth any price tag.
7. An activity
You might not believe you need another activity. The activity, but experimenting with conversation starters like a couple’s journal or question cards could not only break you out of your routine but could also help you learn new things about your partner and even inspire you to try new things (yes, even if you’ve been together ~forever~). Especially if communication in the bedroom is not your strong suit or if you’re still figuring out what you like and don’t like, prompted questions can be a fun, relaxing way to open up communication.
8. Vibrator, sex toy
If you feel stuck in your sex rut, or have trouble orgasming together (AKA 75% of womenA vibrator or sextoy might be the answer. Experimenting and trying new things are always important, but it’s also a good idea to have a go-to vibrator or sex toy that you both enjoy using (and that you also Enjoy using it alone). If you haven’t found a favorite or are interested in exploring, we have many helpful Guides for vibrators and sex toys for partners (hint: there are lots of options). Bottom line: Talk it out together, explore some options,And figure out what you would both be into trying.
9. Luxurious bedding
It’s said that vacation is a better place to have sex. Sure, maybe it’s thanks to the stress-free attitude, exciting new experiences, and the lack of kids/long to-do lists/daily chores you would normally have at home, but I also wouldn’t discount hotel bedding. No matter how much crisp pillows or clean sheets appeal to you, changing your bedding can change the atmosphere and make sex more enjoyable. You can upgrade your bedding to make it more romantic (a cozy night in counts). But you don’t have to change everything.
Source: The Every Girl
