I have a very specific vision for how my life would look if it were made into a movie trailer. I’d be played by Peyton List. AugustTaylor Swift, my president, would be softly lulling quietly in the background. Selena Gomez (obviously) would direct. It would be a kind of recollection, with happy moments like dancing on stage with my best friends, passing the exam I studied for months, falling in love, and finally finding peace in solitude as I watched the sunset from the Chicago lakefront. But there’d also be glimpses of the moments, days, weeks, and sometimes month-long periods when I’ve been down on my luck, hurting, or feeling “meh” about life.
As I’ve worked my way through the changing seasons of my life, I’ve found that some periods are smoother than others. I’ve felt aligned with my purpose, connected, and on track. I’ve also felt disoriented, unsure of which way is up, uncertain of every decision that I’ve ever made, and out of place in the life that I’ve created for myself. Ups and downs are an inevitable part of life, and if you’re in a season of feeling lost, you’re not alone. Here are five ways you can find clarity and rekindle your passion:
1. Join a personal development club that’ll help you reflect, set goals, and take action
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I felt heard and learned so much as I vented out loud. Then, I was able to debrief the situation and come up with an immediate solution. Realistic (!!) Plan on what you could do That dayto take steps to rediscover who I am. For me, that looked like scheduling in 10 minutes of each day of the week to do something that I love, prioritizing that “me” time in the mornings when I have the energy to enjoy it, and exploring hobbies that I want to invest time in. This “structure-without-pressure” approach is so accessible, especially if what you’re looking to address is a question as complex as who am I?
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2. Take a vacation or staycation to self-discovery.
When was the last vacation you took with the sole purpose to do absolutely nothing? Between the hustle and bustle of work, chores, and social gatherings, it’s super easy to get in a mundane routine where you might feel like you’re on autopilot. You can take a day, weekend, or even a few days off to disconnect from the world and recharge. Carve out space to pick up that book you’ve been dying to read, finally do that brain dump in your journal, and reflect on your life and where you want to go.
3. Connect with an old childhood hobby
As I age, the more I believe that I should have a hobby to make the most out of my downtime. As much as I love a good Netflix binge watch, I’ve found that I’ve been spending a majority of my time hitting “play” to escape my reality instead of being present and enjoying my life. If you’re looking to improve your mental, emotional, or physical health while rediscovering the joys of life, consider finding a hobby to enrich your day-to-day routine. And if you’re having trouble narrowing it down, go with what you know and look to your inner child. Reconnecting with what used to bring you joy, whether it’s dancing, drawing, soccer, painting, or other activities, is a sure way of making your adult life more balanced.
4. Update your bucket list
When was the last moment you looked at your bucket list or updated it? You can dream big and explore the must-dos and must-see items that you want to do in the future. Then go through the list to find the ones you can take action towards. Right now. Whether you’re looking for a little bit of control over your destiny or simply want something to look forward to, getting creative and making plans for your future can help you continue on toward a life that you’re excited about.
5. Schedule time to connect with a trusted loved one
Talk to a friend if you are unsure. Besides the fact that connecting with other humans can help boost your mood, improve your quality of life, and even lengthen your lifespan, catching up with someone you love and trust can be an incredibly therapeutic experience, especially when you’re feeling “meh” or like you’re in a bit of a slump. Whether you’re looking for advice, need to vent, or just want to distract yourself, reconnecting with your community can be a powerful tool for sifting out your own thoughts, releasing emotions, and increasing dopamine levels. Lean on your people—they’ve got your back.
This post is sponsored by Topknot, but all opinions are those of The Everygirl editorial staff.
Source: The Every Girl
